I just want to thank you so so much, I can’t put it into words how much you have helped & how grateful I am. Seriously, you are perfect. 

I won’t be using this blog much anymore, as the majority of people seem to have forgotten, but I will check every now and again to see if there are any messages! 

Jord - I don’t know if you’ll ever even see this but if you do please message me, because I don’t know your URL :( but thank you so so so much, you are just simply an amazing person. 

Much love, & I’m always here if any of you ever need anything,

<3

Anonymous asked: why is the main person in the hospital?! is she ok?!?!?!?!?!? please don't tell me she's hurt!

I really don’t know if I am honest

I spoke to her a while ago, and she said she would be back in a few days, but she isn’t

I have full faith that she will be back with us soon! And for now, lets hope she is okay and recovering!

I know she was having surgery and that is the extent of my knowledge :/

Beck

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Anonymous asked: who runs this blog?

I don’t know her name, she doesn’t tell people

I’m Beck, the main person who runs it is currently in hospital

I look after it while she is away

I have also been away, which is why no one has posted for a while…

Beck

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Anonymous asked: This is going to be hard. I have a complicated relationship with this guy. We've been on and off for nearly five years. My friends and family hate him. He runs hot and cold, I guess. But when he is being okay, he can be pretty great.
Then of course, I'm also questioning my sexual identity. I've always thought of myself as gender-blind, but now I have no idea. I'm not a virgin, but the idea of sex at all makes me freak out. I might have a fear of intimacy.
Any thoughts on my situation?

What about when he isn’t being okay?

Are you happy with him? - It isn’t just about your friends and family!

If you feel you need to explore your sexuality a bit more, and you aren’t currently happy then it may be worth changing things a bit

Meeting more people and exploring your sexuality more, may also help with the intimacy problem…

Beck

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Anonymous asked: right this isnt going to make sense but ages ago i wrote on hear with some boy trouble and it sounded stupid but it was extremley big for me. you told me to let you know how it went well hes a mind fuck and i need to get over him right this minute because im going to drive myself insane if i dont ... how the hell do you get over someone ??

This is a hard one

But the worst part about something like this is when you have a moment to yourself

Keep yourself busy, always in conversation, always doing jobs etc that take a bit of brain power!

Honestly you need to remove the ability to think about it and hopefully it will become a little easier…

Also if you think you are ready, try and get back in the game? Flirt a little and have some fun! Get yourself thinking about someone else!

Beck

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Anonymous asked: Hi., Well. I skip breakfast. Not because I choose too, but because thats just what Im used to. I never ate breakfast during school because I never had the time to and now Im just used to it I guess. Then comes lunch time and Im not hungry at all. So I just skip that meal all together as well because I think that Ill get hungry an hour later and I could just make myself a snack. But as the hours go by, its obviously not the case. Then Its dinner time and Im still not hungry. So I just skip that meal too. I mean whats the point of eating if your not hungry.
When I tell my mother that Ive eaten nothing all day because I simply wasnt hungry she begins to yell at me saying things like "Are you TRYING to be anorexic?" Which in all honesty I really am not.
I have absolutely no idea about what to do with my strange appetite. Since its beginning to get quite clear to me that Im just never hungry.
Please help. Thanks.

Okay I had this a while back

Like, when I was much younger, and it’s the strangest thing, but..

You get so hungry, you ignore the hunger, try and eat at each set meal time, it may seem silly, but it does work

You need to regain your eating pattern, your body needs then energy! Eat to refuel, and to enjoy food, even if you don’t think your hungry

It really is good for you!

Beck

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(sorry for replying so late I have been away)

Anonymous asked: hi, uhm.. i'm having feelings for a guy who is really an a*hole.. -.- i didn't mean to have feelings for him, and i didn't want to.. :(((( i just happen to.. what do i do now?

Okay. I’m going to be blunt, it’s pretty shit having feelings for a guy when you aren’t together, but it will be even more shit if he acts like and ass hole to you when/if you are together.

I know it’s hard but it honestly is for the best if you just avoid him, try not to think about him and if you do, remind yourself of what a twat he truly is.

And focus your attentions on another guy!

Again this is difficult, you can’t just pick and choose guys, I know that… But if there is someone you kind of like, try and focus on them.

If not just distract yourself by hanging out with your friends more than ever, spending more time with family etc etc

Be with the people you love and forget about him!

Beck

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Anonymous asked: hey(: erm, I basically skip my day meals and have nothing to eat at breakfast or at lunchtime and my friends at school keep telling me i have an eating disorder and they are threatening to tell my mum. I'm 12stone at 15 years old and i have a meal at tea time so I don't have an eating disorder especially the weight that i am and i also go to a slimming club and I'm loosing weight at a steady pace so its not like I'm loosing rapid weight or anything and i just really want them to stop saying they are going to tell my parents because i really don't want to start being forced to eat at lunch & I'm sick of being "fat". I don't really know how to deal with them or this entire situation. I'm sorry that i sound like a douche, but i just don't really know what to do. xx

You don’t sound like a douche, but may I say I am 17 and I weigh a lot more than 12 stone. I do not consider 12 stone “fat”.

However. Instead of convincing you you don’t need to lose weight (although you don’t) I can’t imagine that will stop you and in the long run won’t help you.

Butttt, skipping meals genuinely isn’t the best way to lose weight. Smaller meals more often is much healthier and will help you lose weight.

If you’re swimming often that’s good :D Exercise is the best way to do it!

It really is beneficial to eat all of your meals! My mum was a size 18 last year and the doctor reviewed her eating habits and realised she wasn’t eating enough, she now has three healthy meals a day and has lost so much weight she is now a size 12. So it really is better for you.

Start eating 3 meals a day now, before you get it into your head that you can’t (i.e. become ill)

Beck

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Anonymous asked: i am not an attractive person. it's not a lie, and it is a fact. no one will ever think i am "sexy" or "hot," only cute, as in little-girl cute. i don't have a nice body or anything, and my boobs are verrrrry small. i am so insecure about myself that i don't even put any pictures of myself on tumblr and untag myself in like half of my photos on facebook because i look so ugly in them. from the guys that i've talked to, it seems like they care mostly about looks and somewhat about personality, but i don't have the looks! i don't really know how you can give me advice, and i know you'll try to tell me i'm beautiful, but i'm not. i just wanted someone to share this with. thanks for reading this :)

I won’t tell you you’re beautiful because I don’t know you, and I haven’t seen you

But 90% of being sexy is that confidence, get confident! You don’t have to have that perfect body, but if you work what you are given then you’ll look sexy!

You don’t think you’re pretty, but someone will, I know that sounds cheesy, but they will! Idk how old you are but you may not be completely developed yet.. and if you are them, so what!? Not all guys think of boobs as a priority, everyone likes different things

Also, I’d recommend posting photos on tumblr, I didn’t used to, because I was scared that I looked too shit, but it really does raise your confidence! Everyone is so nice all the time :D

You sound like you have a great personality, and if you really don’t think you look good enough, then start to look for the personality yourself! Don’t start with looks, start with friendship and work from there

p.s. guys like cute :D

Beck

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But thanks!

I understand, I was worrying about you! I’m glad you are okay :D

Anonymous asked: is it bad now that Harry Potter is over, I feel like there is no reason to live? It was just so much more to me...

I am also a Harry Potter fan (I’m in England so haven’t seen it yet)

AND IT IS IN NO WAY SHAPE OR FORM THE END

That’s what tumblr is for! (And pottermore lets not forget - it’s in the name! MORE POTTER)

And the books are endless

If you want I can give you my personal and we can chat about potter FOREVERRRRRRR

Beck

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Anonymous asked: Is it bad to be a virgin when you are 18 years old.

No, not at all

If you just haven’t been in that situation then *shrug* it’s not bad

Just a fact

I’m sure something will happen soon

Beck

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Anonymous asked: I slept with my assistant manager who is 22, now I feel extremely awkward whenever I go into work, he is trying to further himself in the company, whilst also asking for a relationship with me, I am 18 and a lowly weekend sales assistant. I don't want to ruin that for him by making him seem unprofessional, but I can't hide my feelings for him! I just don't know what to do. x

Well if you like him, then whether or not it gets in the way of his career is his choice

It’s not really unprofessional, keep the relationship away from the business and you should be okay.

But talk to him about it, just say, are you sure you want to be with me? Or do you think it will hurt your place in this company?

And it is then his problem to deal with, not yours :)

Beck

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Anonymous asked: I've met a guy I like (I'm 17) and he's 29. I know he's into me (he made that very clear) but I don't know if the age gap is just too big
D:

Ummm

That’s obviously a decision you need to make, you have to remember he will want very different things in a relationship than you. When you begin to reach 30 relationships are going to be serious, and kids may even be on the plan!

If you like him, I (personally) can see why this is a difficult situation, and a light relationship with him may be fun! But remember he may want more, and you can’t expect yourself to mature 10 years…

Beck

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Anonymous asked: i want to tell the guy of whom i am in love with how i feel.
but he's on holiday until august and i feel like i need to tell him sooner than later.
should i wait and tell him when we see each other next or over the internet?
i'm leaning towards the internet but idk what to say. what do you think i should put?

To the face is always a better way to do it, if I’m honest. You can see his instinctive reaction and you’ll have a better idea of how he truly feels towards you. I know its uncomfortable but it’s also far more adult, and it may make him take you more seriously.

If you really have to tell him via the internet (although I see no major rush) don’t go overboard and tell him you are in love straight away, you don’t want to scare the guy off! Just let him know you have liked him a while, tell him a few of your favourite things about him and remember you are still friends! Throw a bit of banter in there :P

Beck

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